3.27.2012

a melon strolling on two tendrils

sandals: rainbow; skirt/cardi: kohl's; tee (m): target
bring on the maxi everything!
i've been trying to save my maxi dresses and skirts for these last few weeks of pregnancy when i knew i'd be the biggest. i didn't want to get sick of them before now! i'm full-term this week, and i've been so excited to pull these out of my closet and be so comfortable. i may or may not have worn this skirt 2 days in a row--sunday with a cardigan for church, and monday with a yoga hoodie and ponytail for shopping. super glam. also, i'm adding pregnancy to the list of milestone life events i've worn these sandals to, alongside high school prom and my wedding day.

i've gotten a wide range of comments on my size lately. they start at, "wow, 9 months? you're tiny!" and go all the way up to, "you're HUGE! you must be about to POP!"
i am both amused and confused by these comments. before i went and got myself knocked up, i thought pregnancy was the only time women liked hearing that they were huge...but it turns out it still kind of sucks. 
i don't know if any woman enjoys commentary on their size (or do they? maybe it's just me?). it always makes me wonder. am i bigger than most women getting ready to have a baby? too small? is my baby going to weigh 12 lbs? or 4? will i always have a gut that rams into things?
anyways, strange things that people say to pregnant women (myself included!). i don't mind it too much, it's just been interesting to observe as i've grown rounder. any horror stories about this out there?

18 comments:

  1. If it's any consolation, I think you look pretty normal.
    Oh, and I love the color of your cardigan. It's super pretty.

    ReplyDelete
  2. Haha! I HATED all the comments on my size when I was pregnant. Seriously, when is it EVER ok to comment on a person's size? Not cool.
    I think you look great! Hang tight, these next few weeks are gonna fly. Being a momma is the BEST thing ever! You are gonna love it!

    ReplyDelete
  3. I remember when my cousin was pregnant. A strange lady came up to her in Lowe's, put her hand on her stomach, and called her humongous. I've made a vow that if ANY stranger touches my stomach when I'm pregnant I will sock them. Sock them hard. (Seriuosly! WHEN IS IT OKAY to touch someone's stomach!? Do they think just because someone is pregnant they relinquished all personal boundaries?)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. i read a story about a lady who put her hand on a woman's chest who tried to touch her stomach and made a comment like, "how does it make YOU feel to have your private space invaded?!" ha! you should totally sock people!

      Delete
  4. i posted pics on facebook throughout my pregnancy. then, a guy who i had always sort of had a crush on, who i was not really in touch with, chose my 3-days-past-my-due-date-hate-the-world pic to leave the only comment he has ever made in years: "Holy cow!"
    hmph. was he just jealous that i was married and pregnant? or was i the cow in this exclamation?

    ReplyDelete
  5. i think "you look beautiful" is always a safe thing to say to a lady - pregnant or not. especially when it's true... and you most certainly do look beautiful. whether you feel relatively small or as big as a house, enjoy these last few days & weeks of being house and home to your little one, before they get to join you in this adventure and maybe (for a little while at least!) your size will be the furthest thing from your mind :) xoxo!

    ReplyDelete
  6. You do look beautiful! Pregnancy is so pretty. Don't forget that. And you are an especially stylish, pretty pregnant gal.

    creamyclothes.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  7. ha, I understand, its like an out-of body experience, personal space is a thing of the past... the worse is when people try to touch your tummy. SO not fun. I love the outfit though!

    -- heather anderson @ latterdaystyleblog.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  8. Just forget about your size and think about the little piece of perfect you'll get to hold soon. :D

    ReplyDelete
  9. This made me laugh because when I was pregnant with Brinley, I was in school, and one of my teachers looked at me and said, You look like you're due any day!!! LITTLE did HE know, I was only like 24 weeks along and I seriously almost walked home in tears. LOL I gained a proud 40 pounds pregnant with Brinley, but that girl was 8 pounds coming out and I slimmed down pretty quickly after. People are so silly when it comes to guessing pregnancy stages and weeks but I THIIIIINK they mean it out of love :-) I hope so. When my Dad saw me the first time in my pregnancy, he said "I knew you were big, but I didn't know you were B-I-G!" Yes, he spelled it. I was only 28 weeks. For the love. If he saw me 40 weeks pregnant he would probably have had a heart attack. Bless his heart. You're beautiful girl. Love those maxi's!

    ReplyDelete
  10. Oh man do I have a story haha. So i am 8 days away from giving birth to my son, and I run into a lady from church whom I haven't seen in a while. She talks to me for a bit and then says "You know, You look kind of different" as she puts her hand in a cup shape and swings it under her chin like cupping a big giant flapping neck! So i just stared at her and she says "HA. THAT is my NICE way of saying.. YOU GOT REALLY BIG!!!!" I just said "thanks..." and wanted to die the rest of my pregnancy. lol. PS. you look wonderful :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. OMG! that is NOT a nice way of saying that...there isn't a nice way to tell someone they got 'really big'! how rude.

      Delete
  11. I get it ALL the time! I work in a hair school with 130 girls and with a coworker who is 7 weeks behind me. I went to work one day and a student looked at me and said, "you have EXPLODED since the last time I saw you!" I am constantly getting compared to the other pregnant lady. Its hard cause even though you love your little baby bump your body is changing so fast and it is hard to deal with the changes. I wish people would just not comment at all even if they do mean it out of love. I sent my brother a photo of me on his mission and told him I was HUGE and he said, "you are not huge, you do however look like you are trying to steal fruit."

    ReplyDelete
  12. When I was 35 weeks pregnant with my first child, my boss looked me up and down and said, "Wow! My wife never got that big!" I was shocked and hurt, and quickly informed all the men in my life that they should never tell a pregnant woman she looks big. By the time I was pregnant with my second child, I had the guts to say something back when people made comments (and they always do). One man told me, at 24 weeks, that he thought I was having twins. I smiled and kindly told him that most women don't love hearing stuff like that. (This was a complete stranger that I knew I'd never see again, and it felt great). Not long after, an acquaintance of mine made a comment about my size and the next time my husband saw him, he pulled him aside and said something like, "Just so you know, my wife doesn't love hearing about how big she is. You can think what you want, but you don't have to say it." The guy kind of laughed and admitted that he didn't even think about it like that. Most of the time, people don't mean any harm. And the truth of the matter is that you are doing something that is truly amazing! You are growing a human inside your body! To be a healthy pregnant woman is such a gift, and I am so happy for you. You look amazing, and you will be/already are a great mama. I don't even know you but I can tell. Enjoy! Soon your little family will be together. :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. i love your response! and thank you for your sweet words, they mean so much :) it's so true that people don't mean any harm, i just don't think they realize!

      Delete
  13. On the one hand, girl you look great! I think it's sort of astounding that looking at you straight on from the front, you don't look pregnant at all - it's only from the side that you look pregnant. It's as though you gained every pound that you needed to gain in exactly the most efficient spot for your little one, and nowhere else. I mean that as a compliment!

    But on the other hand, you are GROWING A HUMAN INSIDE YOU. I can't imagine what kind of nerve it takes to critique the way your body is GROWING A HUMAN INSIDE YOU. Any kind of man who would ever presume to have an opinion on the way in which your body is GROWING A HUMAN INSIDE YOU is a jerk who doesn't deserve a second thought. This is the weirdest, coolest, most amazing thing your body can possibly do in your whole life. What would a man or a non-mama like me ever know about it? Whatever your body is doing is what it needs to do. Good luck in the next few weeks, lady, I'm excited to see the little one. :)

    ReplyDelete
  14. Comments like that coming from women who have already experienced pregnancy is rediculous. Once you've had a kid you realize, the size of the belly in no way determines size of baby. It's all about how much fluid is really in there. I was about your size when I was full term and was induced - I had a 9lb baby! My OB, my husband and I were shocked!

    ReplyDelete

oh, hey!

i think you're smart, pretty, and entitled to your own opinions.

i'd love it if the feeling was mutual!